Not to be your mom, but please listen
I wasn’t planning on blogging today, and I never plan to ask you guys to promote my posts, but this is one exception. Please, please pass this one on.
Last night, my former roommate told me she didn’t want to go out because she had a bad night on Wednesday. I figured it was to do with someone she’s dating or something. The normal bs that leads to “bad nights.” But when I asked her this morning, it was a whole lot more serious and MUCH scarier – someone drugged her.
She was at a bar she goes to regularly with friends. She told me there was a group of people she’d never seen before, and they asked her to do karaoke with them. Afterward, they bought her a shot. This is fairly normal behavior, and, like her, I wouldn’t have thought twice about it. Awhile later, after she got home, she started hallucinating. Even worse, she lives alone. And she can’t even smoke weed without having serious problems. Drugs are not her thing. I would have been scared shitless – and she definitely was. She said she was aware of what was happening but couldn’t control her body. I speak from experience when I say that’s absolutely the worst feeling ever and I’m just SO glad she was home when it happened.
The thing is that we all know not to take drinks from random guys, especially if the bartender doesn’t hand it directly to you. But the group that bought her a shot? All women.
Women drugged her. I have no idea why, but my best guess is that they wanted to see what happened. See some girl embarrass herself. Whatever. But she could have been seriously hurt, and she WAS seriously scared. If she hadn’t made it home before it kicked in, I don’t even want to think about what could have happened.
I’m guessing since it’s Friday, many of us, myself included, will be at a bar tonight. Most of us know to watch out for ourselves when a man offers us a drink. But please please please think twice before anyone offers you a drink. I’ve never heard of women drugging another woman, but clearly it does happen. I know none of you are stupid but neither am I and I would have taken the drink too. So please just be careful this weekend and be safe.
Posted: January 15th, 2010 under Family.
Tags: This is serious business
Comments
Comment from LiLu
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:19 pm
Thanks for posting this. I’ve been terrified of it ever since watching Veronica Mars (for serious- NOT making a joke here), but a reminder is always a great thing.
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Comment from Jeney
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:20 pm
That is absolutely frightening… definitely not something people should just brush off and think couldn’t happen to them.
I had a good friend who was drugged and raped in college. Events like this definitely effect more people than just the victim.
I will definitely help spread the word for you.
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Comment from Pecosa
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:21 pm
Holy shit, that’s fkd up.
I’m sure most of us would have taken the shot without thinking twice about it…
I’m glad your friend is ok and hopefully we’ll all be more careful from now on.
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Comment from My Kafkaesque Life
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:22 pm
Wow, this is seriously disturbing. Seems as we can’t trust anyone any more. It’s a crazy world!
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Comment from gingermandy
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:27 pm
you’re right, i never would have thought something like this from a group of women, but it goes to prove that you can’t trust ANYONE. people are cruel and vicious. i’m glad she is ok.
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Comment from ms lollygagger
Time January 15, 2010 at 1:17 pm
Women are cruel..thanks for the post-it’s a great reminder to never accept shots/drinks from someone you don’t know.
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Comment from KeepingYouAwake
Time January 15, 2010 at 1:19 pm
That is completely unexpected… Women? Maybe someone gave one of them the shot, and they passed it over rather to signal the guy that it was unwelcome? That’s just weird.
I’ve been driving home and realized I was drunker than I thought I was and that was bad enough. Great to hear that at least she was home first.
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Comment from Lauren
Time January 15, 2010 at 1:23 pm
wow, thank you for posting this, I would take a drink with no second thoughts from a group of girls too. scary.
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Comment from Simone
Time January 15, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Thanks for posting this—we all know this kind of stuff can happen but sometimes we forget. I’m glad that your friend is OK.
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Comment from lbluca77
Time January 15, 2010 at 4:56 pm
What! Women did this to her? What ever happened to sisterhood. I’m glad she got home ok before anything happened. I always make a friend watch my drink when I go to the bathroom at a bar but I guess you can still be drugged. So scary. thanks for the reminder and glad your friend is. ok.
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Comment from Maxie
Time January 16, 2010 at 7:12 pm
This is so incredibly scary. You know how careless I am when I drink, and I’m honestly VERY surprised nothing like this has happened to me yet.
Thank you for sharing her story.
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Comment from me in millions
Time January 18, 2010 at 8:33 pm
Superscary for sure. Maybe the women were planning on robbing her? I’ve heard of this happening before, drugging her and following her home or just taking her purse, etc. Does your friend look like she has a lot of money?
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Comment from deutlich
Time January 19, 2010 at 8:30 am
a good friend of mine was drugged at my 25th (I’m 28 now) birthday party in DC. I didn’t even realize what was going on until the next day but holy hell that is an incredibly scary thing. I”m so glad your friend is okay.
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Comment from Mary
Time January 15, 2010 at 12:19 pm
Yikes! I had no idea this happened either. Thanks for the heads up, I’ll definitely pass this along.
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